March 08th, 2022

WHAT ARE SWINGERS? IS SWINGING HEALTHY?

If you have a strong foundation of trust and communication, swinging can bring excitement to your relationship. Swingers comes from all walks of life they can be your local judge, college professor, doctor, favorite rock star, athlete, or your family members. Swingers are not morally bankrupt individuals. Swinging is a middle to upper-middle class trend. In 2007, 27% of the population had a B.A. or higher (Crissy, 2009). The mean educational level for the swingers was 16.3 with a median of 16, which is greater than the general population. Income also places swingers squarely in the upper-middle class. In 2007, median household income in the United States was $50,740. The figure for whites only (which made up the vast majority of the present study) was $53,714 ( Bishaw & Semega, 2008). And an income of $70,000, which 38% of the swingers had in this study, placed a person in the top 20% of the population (Congressional Budget Office, 2011).

On the other hand, political identification and ideology have changed over the years. In the early studies, swingers tended to be fairly conservative to moderate and Republican. Berstrand and Sinski found a change towards more moderation in ideology and a slightly higher percentage identifying as Democrat than Republican. The current study verifies that trend. The plurality of swingers saw themselves as Democrats while only less than fifteen percent labeled themselves as Republican. The Pew Foundation (2014) reports that, in 2007, 36% of the population said they were Democrats while 25% said they were Republican. Thirty-two percent labeled themselves as Independent. The Swinging lifestyle might not be for you, and that's okay, but it's a normal part of human sexual experience. It's no “weirder” than, say, being an accountant for a living. There are more swingers than accountants in the world.

In general, people in the swing lifestyle community are people who enjoy being sexually open and who like to socialize without the traditional rules of monogamy. Therefore, people in the lifestyle might, on one end of the spectrum, simply enjoy having drinks with a couple and sharing sexy stories. On the other end, they swap partners and engage “play” sexual activities.

Between the boundaries of playstyles are things like “soft-swing” which is defined as no vaginal penetration. Within this, there couples may follow specific boundaries of girl-girl-only, touching only, kissing / no-kissing, oral, etc

Everything a couple does, their rules, boundaries, and preferences are discussed and negotiated amongst themselves, and then communicated to other couples or individuals they meet. There's a degree of formality to it, but communication and getting mutual consent for various activities ensures there's no issues of jealousy or drama between the couples. It's a slow, careful, and respectful of each other's primary relationship. The swingers who don't follow these protocols, are usually discussed, and ostracized from the community. Thus, almost any couple in a long-term relationship could find partners willing to engage their play style at a similar comfort-level.

​Couples approach the swingers lifestyle through swingers websites, clubs, meet and greets at local bars, house-parties, hotel takeover parties, resorts, and Swingers specific cruises. Some swingers prefer to have random sexual encounters at clubs, parties, or in 1-off dates. Others prefer to develop long-term friendships within a community where sexual encounters emerge from having a comfort level and chemistry with someone. Some swingers really like to have a very close connection to their play-partner, while some feel that's threatening and avoid it.

At clubs, people experience a buffet of possibilities - from simply dancing, to watching, to play with other couples in selectable degrees of privacy or lack thereof. Clubs are the safest way to have experiences with others because they enforce rules related to consent-before-touching. Clubs are also the easiest way to dip your toes because the room is filled with people looking to play within the next couple hours. Meet and Greets on the other hand have no play except when some of the women dance sexy together. They take place in normal bars/restaurants and are designed for people to meet others with no pressure. Some couples are comfortable playing on the first dates, others like to wait. It's all communicated on the profile, during initial communication, and in-person on the date.

The benefit of the swingers experience ISN’T the sexy times they have with others (well, maybe a little), but the growth within themselves and their relationship. As such, swingers spend a lot of time introspecting and having intimate, vulnerable conversations with each other.

As a result, when you communicate with your spouse about personal preferences, you increase empathy and understanding. When you discuss possible situations that involve intimacy with others, you inevitably a) give your relationship some “air” which leads to an electric sex-life, or  b) reveals insecurities and relationship issues. The smart couples go slowly in order to not overwhelm one or the other partner. Responsible swingers never push other couples boundaries for this same reason.

Fusex Social club is a Private Members Club. The anonymity, security, and protection of our members as our highest priority. To meet our current club members, all prospective members must sign a Non-Disclosure/Non-Disparagement agreement, successfully pass a situational behavioral interview and a comprehensive National Criminal back Check. we host events in 15 states. 

​To attend local Swinger lifestyle events. Submit your Free membership application at https://www.fusexsocialclub.com/application.html